Even to judge a person or a situation, you need some reference value: some ideas in your mind need to be there already, with which you compare what you encounter. But what if you were empty, totally empty? What will you judge someone or something against then? What if there were no ideas to judge with?
It is like trying to draw lines in vacuum. To draw anything, you need a hard surface. Even if the surface is fluid, soft, you can’t draw anything on it. Nothing will remain, even if you try to draw. Judging is like drawing on a hard surface. You are the surface. If you are fluid or empty, nothing will have its effect or hold on you. Thoughts will happen, but will not leave their mark on you. There will be no good or bad, just life.
How to reach that emptiness?
By knowing that you are everything that exists, and everything that exists is you. You are infinity itself.
When you know you are that, you know how meaningless your ideas, opinions, expectations and beliefs are. No beliefs are needed. No ideas are needed. They may be there, they may exist, but they are not needed. They are just floating, like leaves on the gushing water surface of a river. They don’t bind you.
The moment you know that you are not bound, you are not bound. The moment you believe you are bound, you bind your own self.
If you are infinite, how can anything bind you? Nothing exists outside of you, then how can there be anything that can bind you?
You know that you are not bound by any ideas, expectations, and beliefs when your ideas and expectations no longer have a hold on you. They no longer trigger any wild emotions in you. They lead you to a place of no words. When there are no words, there are no judgements.
You will not need anything from outside. Because there is no outside. You will play and celebrate your existence with everything around you. But you will not need anything, because you will already be complete, full. You already are complete. You always were complete, even when you dint know it, even when you couldn't feel it.
They say, if you love someone set them free.
But I think the moment you try to bind anyone else, you automatically start binding your own self too. If you love someone, simply love. Don’t try to bind anyone, because binding anyone is binding your own self. Because you are everyone. If you tie a rope around someone’s neck, you need to hold the other end of the rope too. The rope binds both!
Even to bind someone, you need to first judge them. If you don’t judge, there won’t be a reason to bind.
The next dilemma: judging others’ judgement! How do you not judge others’ heavy non-stop judgements, sometimes when they are thrust in your face? Simply by knowing that you have done this all your life too, and you now know how meaningless it is. What is the use of judging someone for something you know is meaningless? They may not be aware that it is meaningless, you do. By dropping judgements of others you heal your own self. You remove the blockages that stop you from experiencing yourself as infinite and complete.